Tuesday, December 30, 2008

The Best Way to Feel Heaven in Your Home is to Have Someone You Love in Heaven






My mom received a plaque with the words "The Best Way To Feel Heaven in Your Home is To Have Someone You Love in Heaven". I thought those words to be fitting for the title of this blog. My dad passed away recently, and though this blog is difficult for me to write, I feel it is important to pay tribute to him. Over the past couple of weeks, I have heard story after story of the service and love my dad gave to the people around him. I knew my dad to be a generous man who followed promptings without hesitation, but he almost always did his acts of service in a very quiet and private way, so it wasn't until after his passing that I was able to hear of the impact he had on so many people. His acts of service ranged from playing his bagpipes for those that were sick or grieving, to offering a perfect stranger money, a hotel room and a bus pass to get home. He showed love and acceptance in such a way that so many of the people he knew thought that he was THEIR best friend. Not only was he a good friend to nearly everyone he came in contact with, he was a good son who took care of his mother after his father passed. He was a good brother who always had his siblings best interests in mind. He was a loving and devoted husband who continually searched for ways to make his wife happy. Most importantly to me, he was a good father. Not only did he take time to play with us and laugh with us, he always took advantage of opportunities to teach us valuable lessons. I am sure Kiera, Ian and Sam learned similar lessons from my dad, but these are lessons I personally learned from him. He taught me to be an honest and hard worker. He taught me to think of others before myself. I learned many lessons from him just by observing him. I remember after a serious work accident he was in about eight years ago, he was laying in the hospital covered in dirt, with bruises and broken bones and he asked a nurse how she was doing when she came into the room to take care of him. It wasn't a casual "how are you doing" either, I knew he sincerely wanted to know. That really impressed me. He taught me to have a better understanding and love for my Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ as he lead us in family prayer and scripture study and talked to me often about different areas of the gospel. I will miss his council and comforting words. I will miss his constant support of the decisions I make. I will miss those rough and worn, but gentle hands that would playfully tug on my hair and pat my shoulder as he walked by or squeeze my hand in times of discouragement and reassure me that everything would be ok. Although I won't be able to feel those hands any more or see his face, I know that heaven isn't far way and he will often be near. Whenever I hear his name mentioned or think of the life he lived, my heart will swell with pride to know that he was my dad.

6 comments:

Mike and Wendy said...

When Mike first learned of your father's passing, one thing he said is that he wished he'd had the chance to get to know him better. He said he could just tell, from meeting him once at yours and Matt's wedding, that he was a good man.
We can't tell you how sorry we are. I'm sorry I haven't offered my condolences yet. I hope you didn't feel like I didn't care, but P.F. Chang's didn't seem the appropriate place. Please know how sorry we are. I continue to pray for yours and your family's comfort daily. I know it's not exactly the same situation, but there are two things I learned from my miscarriage. First, I was left with an ABSOLUTE knowledge that God is real. Second, I know that no matter what the situation, the Spirit can lift you up and help you bear the burden. Not long after the miscarriage I came across a scripture that will always be one of my favorites. It's Mosiah 24:14-15. I hope when you read it you find the same comfort I did. We will continue to pray for it. We love you!

Rachel said...

Jen, I'm so sorry. I can't even believe it. I was reading your post at work and I started crying. I only met your dad a few times, but I still feel like I knew him because of all the stories you shared at work. He really was the most genuine guy. Thanks for sharing your love for him.

Mary and Gary said...

I couldn't agree more about your dad. He was a great guy. I remember a story you told about how your family was doing something and you were still in bed...your dad came in to wake you up and said "Jenny, put this on and come into the living room"...he handed you your bra and walked out. I think that story couldn't say more about your dad. He loved you and you could tell you had such a close relationship. I hope you're hanging in there.
Love ya!

The Seamans said...

Hey Jenny and Matt. I just came across your blog after seeng katrinas and am so glad that I found it. Jen you have been on my mind a lot lately which is probably not news to you but I want to tell you how incredible this beautiful tribute is to your dad. It does my heart good to read it and I will take time to show my dad. I think what you have shared will touch anyone who knew him....what a great family we have :)

Sandgren Family said...

That was really beautiful and touching. We all love him and miss him very much. I know that he and my dad are now working on some very noble mission together.
Also, I promise you that you will feel his presence on those very important occassions you really want him to be here and apart of. I love you so much and can't wait until you move back home so we get to see you more often. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you or anyone in your family.
Love,
Katrina

TheMcGrawFamily said...

Hey, I hope everythings going well with you. I miss you tons lately, I hope you are able to move up here soon.Let me know how things are with you.
love you
Ericka